In my last post before the reveal of the kitchen renovation, I want to take a moment to reflect on the choices we made and why. Most designer kitchens are the brainchild of a singular mind. However, the kitchen is a huge focal point for both spouses in our home. We both had very distinct and completely different opinions and styles. As Abe Lincoln once said, “A house divided against itself cannot stand.” A meeting of the minds was in order before ever getting out the hammer. That could have been dangerous otherwise, haha! I believe the journey is as interesting as the end product, and enhances it even more so. So here is our journey to compromising and including both visions into a completed project.
1. I asked for inspirational pictures so I could have visuals. “Seeing” helped our communication. I asked for dislikes and likes about those inspiration pictures. I looked for emotion and how we each envisioned ourselves in each dream kitchen.
This is a clear example of how my husband saw his kitchen. His style lends itself to the craftsman and old-world style kitchens with amazing architectural details. He loved the use of natural, textural products such as the brick ceiling and granite counter tops. He loved the rich contrasting tones and how over-sized and heavy everything appeared. In fact, the only thing he disliked was the brick floor which was a little too casual. His kitchen displays sturdy and stoic qualities. No pretty hors d’oeuvres in his kitchen! It wants wood-grilled pizza and spaghetti to feed an army.
And here was the closest I could find to my own vision. I wanted a mix of cafe style with a few well placed vintage accents. In this picture, I love the shaker cabinetry and the basic color scheme. It’s light and bright but not boring either. But there are also some things I would have changed too. First, those overhead lamps are a missed opportunity. Second, I am not a fan of the glare on that tile but I love subway. I would also rather have a grey cabinet (although I agree the cream looks good against that muted aqua in this picture). I envision sipping coffee/tea in the morning and making my plans for the day. My kitchen feels relaxed yet vibrant in a non-offending way.
I don’t think you could get two more different kitchens, honestly. And that was the dilemma. But at least I had something I could pull from and a better understanding of his desires and how to incorporate them.
2. We made a list of priorities and compromises. We started with wish lists and whittled them down. We got to excersize veto power. It was empowering and headache-inducing at the same time, but we made it.
So now we had some boundaries and parameters to work with. Time to go to work.
3. We picked out everything together. Ok, maybe I bought a certain tea pot without consent but EVERY big purchase had consent from both parties. With our references and budget in hand, we set out on many (many!) Saturdays to coordinate and purchase items for the kitchen. The staff at the local Lowe’s and The Tile Shop, know us by name and always ask how our project is going. The point is that there is no pointing fingers or
What I love most about my kitchen is that it isn’t MY kitchen, it is OUR kitchen. They say the kitchen is the soul of the house and I cannot imagine a better way to reflect the soul of our marriage than in a kitchen that reflects each of us.
>>THE REVEAL IS NEXT!<<
I am taking next week off from this series to finish the decor. We had some crazy drama with the backsplash tile. There may have been a slight (or huge) measuring error and the next shipment was coming from Japan…by boat. Ugg, the problems of DIY.